Dear Twentysomething-year-old Me,
親愛的20多歲的我：
1. Go easier on your mother. Every singlething that annoys and disappoints you about her will be something you recognizein yourself as you get older. That's one big bakery full of humble pie you'recooking up right now.
對媽媽耐心點。她身上任何使你發火或失望的特質，等以后年紀再大一些你都會在自己身上找到。你正在自釀苦酒。
2. Don't be competitive. Be collaborative.There's plenty of room at the table.
不要好勝，要有團隊意識。每個人都會分到一杯羹。
3. Your dream life is not something thatwill appear to you, or not, like an elusive, mythical unicorn. You build yourown specifically perfect life every time you listen to your gut, shake offrejection, honor friends, embrace choosiness, feed your savings account andrecognize your own arrogance.
你夢想的生活方式也許不會出現，如果出現，它也不會像一直神秘魔幻的獨角獸那樣現身。每次你傾聽自己的內心，戰勝挫折，珍惜朋友，擁抱對你的挑剔，增加存款，認清自己的傲慢的時候，你都在建構自己獨有的夢想生活。
4. Sign up for small automatic savings depositsthat kick in every time you get paid. You'll be making down payments on yourown future freedom.
辦理小額的儲蓄存款通存業務，每次你發工資就可以存些錢。你在為將來會獲得的自由預知賬單。
5. Rejection is not a sign that you shouldstop doing what you love. It is married to doing what you love. It should notbe kneecapping you. Embrace it.
被拒絕不意味著你應該放棄那些愛好，追求自己的愛好必然會遇到挫折，別讓挫折阻止你，擁抱挫折。
6. If you have a problem with a valuedfriend, bite the bullet and talk about it. Don't just disappear on her or him.
如果你與某個重要的朋友不和，放下面子，和他(她)談談。不要僅僅從他(她)眼前消失。
7. Tell the truth. People really do senseit when you lie to them, and it makes them distrust you or themselves. It's thedarndest thing.
說實話。別人真的可以感覺到你在說謊，這會讓他人對你或他們自己產生不信任感。說實話是一件超贊的事情。
8. You were raised to think that you shouldbe married well before 30 -- and that everything else you fill your life withadds up to failure if you remain single. That's a giant bucket of steamingdookie. Be choosy. The happiness you're chasing is actually suffusing your liferight now. You will look back on this time very wistfully when you've got spit-upin your hair and a husband who expects hot meals, a sparkling-clean house andyou to resemble the cutie he married.
你的成長環境使你覺得你應該早在30歲之前成婚——如果你30歲還單身，就會覺得生活中其他一切都是失敗的。這種想法太小題大做了。當你頭發開始分叉，丈夫等著吃飯，剛把房子打掃干凈，而你本人已經不是丈夫當年娶的小可愛的時候，你會非�？释氐浆F在的時光。
9. Reconnect with your gut. I know you wereraised to ignore it, and to first please others. Without a connection to yourgut, you have no compass. Listen to it. If it squawks, pay attention. The moreyou listen to it, the more you'll avoid messy/self-destructive detours andalign with your own satisfying path.
重新關注自己的內心。我知道你的成長環境教會你首先取悅別人，而忽略自己的內心。但是如果你不去關注自己的心，就無法同情他人。傾聽自己的心吧。如果你的心在抱怨，你就必須注意了。對自己的心傾聽的越多，你就越能夠避免自暴自棄的傾向，而能夠把握自娛自樂的心境。
10. You are so beautiful right now. Yourskin is amazing. Your metabolism is forgiving. You have epic amounts of energyand curiosity. Do not look to others to fuel up your self-esteem. You're madeof awesome. Own it and others will see it.
現在的你是如此美麗。你的皮膚美呆了，你的新陳代謝很旺盛。你的精力和好奇心都處于頂點。不要靠模仿別人來滿足自己的自尊心。你本身已經很贊了。把握住這種氣場，周圍的人都會看到。
11. When that man you have a crush on asks,"Are you a good girl or a bad girl?" laugh in his face, spin on yourheel and ignore his calls.
當那個你喜歡的男孩問“你是個好女孩還是個壞女孩”時，沖他笑笑，轉身走開，忽略他打給你的電話。
12. Wear sunscreen. At least around youreyes and above your currently pert upper lip's cupid's bow.
要擦防曬霜。至少在眼睛周圍，和你現在完美唇形的上唇邊緣要擦。
13. Just because you share blood with peopledoesn't mean you have to give them the time of day if they are hell-bent onmaking you feel small, misunderstood and wrong. You've given them enoughchances. Cut the cord.
就算是你的血脈至親，也別允許他們肆意藐視你、誤解你、無端指責你。你已經給了他們很多機會了。請擺脫他們的束縛。